從朋友的Facebook上面看到的
原文是從Washington Post來的
解釋為什麼有小孩的爸媽這麼忙
寫得蠻貼切的 也還蠻有趣的
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Why Don't Friends With Kids Have Time?
Tell Me About It by Carolyn Hax : Friend really doesn't get the kid thing Tell Me About It by Carolyn Hax Tucson, Arizona | Published: 06.05.2007
● Carolyn: My best friend has a child. Her: Exhausted, busy, no time for self, no time for me, etc. Me (no kids): Wow. Sorry. What'd you do today? Her: Park, play group . . . OK. I've done Internet searches; I've talked to parents. I don't get it. What do stay-at-home moms do all day? Please, no lists of library, grocery store, dry cleaners. . . . I do all those things, too, and I don't do them every day. I guess what I'm asking is: What is a typical day, and why don't moms have time for a call or e-mail? I work and am away from home nine hours a day (plus a few late work events), and I manage to get it all done. I'm feeling like the kid is an excuse to relax and enjoy — not a bad thing at all — but if so, why won't my friend tell me the truth? Is this a contest ("My life is so much harder than yours")? What's the deal? I've got friends with and without kids, and all us child-free folks get the same story and have the same questions. — Tacoma, Wash.
● Tacoma:
Relax and enjoy. You're funny. Or you're lying about having friends with kids. Or you're taking them at their word that they actually have kids, because you haven't personally been in the same room with them. Internet searches? I keep wavering between giving you a straight answer and giving my forehead some keyboard. To claim you want to understand — while in the same breath implying that the only logical conclusions are that your mom friends are either lying or competing with you — is disingenuous indeed. So, since it's validation you seem to want, the real answer is what you get. In list form. When you have young kids, your typical day is: constant attention, from getting them out of bed, fed, clean, dressed; to keeping them out of harm's way; to answering their coos, cries and questions; to having two arms and carrying one kid, one set of car keys and supplies for even the quickest trips, including the latest-to-be-declared-essential piece of molded plastic gear; to keeping them from unshelving books at the library; to enforcing rest times; to staying one step ahead of them lest they get too hungry, tired or bored, any one of which produces the kind of checkout-line screaming that gets the checkout line shaking its head. It's needing 45 minutes to do what takes others 15. It's constant vigilance, constant touch, constant use of your voice, constant relegation of your needs to the second tier. It's constant scrutiny and second-guessing from family members and friends, well-meaning and otherwise. It's resisting the constant temptation to seek short-term relief at everyone's long-term expense. It's doing all this while concurrently teaching virtually everything — language, manners, safety, resourcefulness, discipline, curiosity, creativity, empathy. Everything. It's also a choice, yes. And a joy. But if you spent all day, every day, with this brand of joy — and then when you got your first 10 minutes to yourself, you wanted to be alone with your thoughts instead of calling a good friend — a good friend wouldn't judge you, complain about you to mutual friends or marvel at how much more productively she uses her time. Either make a sincere effort to understand, or keep your snit to yourself.
~reprinted without permission
日前民進黨蔡英文主席投書報紙，指出政府若與中國大陸簽訂「ＣＥＣＡ」，中國勞工將排擠本國勞工就業，造成本土企業關廠歇業。
在野黨把政府研議中的「綜合性經濟合作協定」與全面性開放的「自由貿易協定」（ＦＴＡ）搞混了。兩岸經濟交流正常化的進行，未來不管以哪一種協議的形式出現，台灣都不可能向中國大陸「全面開放」。
馬總統幾次嚴正指出，不會讓陸勞進來；八百多項農產品，也不會開放大陸貨登台。政府捍衛人民生存、堅守主權，鐵證歷歷。對去年五二○以前就登台的大陸食 品，現在的政府把關更嚴；對岸本不情願談食品安全協議，因為我們的堅持，後來從善如流；對方代表來台，馬總統和我分別以中華民國總統及行政院陸委會主委的 官方身分接見。在野黨莫須有的擔憂，來自不切實際的論斷。
不管是ＦＴＡ、ＣＥＰＡ、ＣＥＣＡ，還是政府擬議中的「綜合性經濟合作協定」，簽約主體的身分各有差異，不該一概而論。若與對岸簽署此類協定，政府當然會 就產業項目逐一評估，謝謝輿論的提醒，政府本就在執行。台灣製貨物哪些產品會藉「綜合性經濟合作協定」而獲益，評估的工作繁雜；擬議未來協定的具體內容更 是艱鉅，政府將就產業需求，往對我們最有利的方向推進。至於涉及主權的部分，馬總統的就職演說中，其實已表達很清楚了。台灣的生存是兩岸交流的前提，兩岸 經貿正常化的過程中，不容許台灣主權有絲毫的損害。
經濟協定，攸關百姓生活，當然不該將其簡化為意識形態的問題。關於此議題，目前意見兩極。把簽「綜合性經濟合作協定」當成是仙丹，以為就可讓台灣安然置身 在全球金融風暴之外，不切實際；視其為催命符，認為簽了後，台灣就「傾中」、「喪失經濟主體性」，更是跳躍與武斷。推動「綜合性經濟合作協定」，以守護台 灣為原則，政府必須且正在細緻地分析利弊。
這陣子，石化業龍頭為「ＣＥＣＡ」請命，認為將有利於其四兆產值。業者的良言美意，政府傾聽，政府也一定會解決他們的困難。另一方面，我們也注意到四兆中 有二點三兆人纖與紡織等下游生產者，中小企業為其主力，例如我一向關心的毛巾業、寢具業等本土傳統產業。未來如何阻擋中國大陸產品的傾銷，以保護其產業、 就業及社區，政府責無旁貸。政策規劃，循序漸進，不須在芻議出爐前，就先加以莫須有罪名。
這就是跨疆域經濟協定的困難所在。有些項目，我們要但對方不要，反之亦然。同時，建立獲益產業的回饋機制以及弱勢產業的補償機制，更是關鍵。利害關係產業 與勞工的利益平衡問題，政府會仔細拿捏。此政策重擔，令人白髮，所以我上周提出「審慎穩健地發展更優惠的經貿措施」主張，力求在主權與繁榮兩方面「人財兩 得」。在野黨強調要有「機會與風險」的評估，我們早就啟動。保護台灣利益，不止於大聲嚷嚷，政府早已著手上路，歡迎大家加入。
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